Expectations
Expectations.. So much of our lives revolve around these.
Expectations we keep from ourselves.
Expectations we keep from our loved ones.
Expectations that are expected of us.
We don't even realize when these expectations creep deep into our system and start jamming it. These do not come alone. Are often accompanied by a virus to human soul.. Fear. Nonetheless fear has its own class... but before I go into the realm of Fear..there are other questions to be answered.
What the hell is this expectation? To anticipate with the confidence of fulfilment or to paint a picture in mind and assigning a probability of it coming alive?
What is the source of this expectation? Is it there inherent in us and switches between being dormant and being active or is it part of something much larger and deceptive..." Our need to control" ?
Is there a way to shield oneself from being exposed to it ??
There are solutions but none i found worthy of recommending..
none strong enough to beat and baffle the one that is so mighty.
posted by Tina at
4:03 AM
6 Comments:
If u look it in another way, expectations give you a sense of purpose,responsibility. It makes you feel that there is something more to life than just obeying it. The satisfaction it gives is immense once you reach at that level.
Dear Kiran,
I fail to understand how expectations and sense of purpose & responsibility co-relate.
Why do you vote for the idea where expectations define or set responsibilities.
Rather expectations are the one which blur the vision. They distract you from your goal & dilute & corrupt the very system which should be made of just the purpose and the efforts and the joy of working towards the goal.
For example, take the case of elder son in a family. There are certain expectations on his performance from family members. The expectations make him more responsible and constantly reminds him that he should focus on his goal. Expectations do not tie one's hands to do things, if taken in positive sense, they make you more focused on goal and determined. Another example, as a husband when my wife joins higher education, i have expectations that she will perform well and that expectations make her work hard in achieving her goal. I'm never going to explicitly tell her that i want specific kind of performance from her but my expectations will be known through my suggestions to her and sometimes in the way i become happy with her performance and involvement in her studies. So, according to me, sense of purpose and responsibility co-relate with expectations.
If expectations are kept aside, many problems are solved.
I think the issue is not that keeping expectations is good or bad, or it should not be there if one wants to become responsible or achieve goals.I will try to differentiate the expectation and responsibility in the coming line. I think its the expectation (including yours from yourself) which makes you set goals and its sense of responsibility which makes you achieve those goals. So both of the things are integral part of the life, its just how you see it.
It is difficult for me to digest how we can let someone else define our goal. Expectations, by expectations I mean Expectations others have from us, might influence your goals but they should never be the guiding factor is defining your goals. I know, what I want to convey here is an ideal situation but then everyone wants to be ideal ...don't you???
Expectations from inner self are not expectations they are your assessment of your capabilities, your judgment of what you can achieve and what you cannot. Sometimes you assess them right sometimes you don't.
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